Mapping the pattern
When it happens, what comes immediately before, and what it handles.
The part that is hard to say out loud
Pornography & Compulsive Sexual Behavior Therapy in Boca Raton
This is one of the harder things to raise in a first session. It is also one of the more common reasons people come in.
You can say it plainly here.
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You can say it plainly here.
How I think about it
The label matters less than what is actually happening.
Which one applies to you shapes the treatment
Sometimes the behavior works compulsively. Sometimes the distress comes from a conflict between what you do and what you believe. Sometimes both are true.
We work that out together rather than starting from a diagnosis.
Schedule a Free 15-Minute ConsultationWhat people bring to these sessions
The shape it usually takes.
Deciding it was the last time, repeatedly
Hours and secrecy adding up beyond what you intended
Feeling distant from a partner, or from yourself
Escalation that concerns you
A gap between how you are living and what you value
Shame that makes the subject almost impossible to raise
Nothing has to be said in the first session. You can begin with a rough outline and fill it in as you go.
Where we start from
Your values are the starting point.
If your religious tradition is part of how you understand this, it belongs in the room. Sexual orientation and identity are outside the scope of this page.
This is individual therapy. I work with relationship concerns individually and do not offer couples therapy.
My approach
Understanding the cycle, then changing it.
Honest conversation
Being able to describe it accurately to another person is often the first time that has happened, and it changes what is possible.
Practical change
Structure around the predictable moments rather than relying on resolve.
What sits underneath
Loneliness, anxiety, boredom, shame, or earlier experiences that shaped how you relate to sex and closeness. EMDR may help where specific memories stay charged.
What treatment may look like
A clear process, adapted to your situation
Map the pattern
When it happens, what comes immediately before, and what it handles.
Say the accurate version out loud
Describing it precisely to another person changes what is possible.
Build practical structure
Planning around the predictable moments rather than relying on resolve.
Work on what sits underneath
Loneliness, anxiety, shame, or earlier experiences, with EMDR where specific memories stay charged.
Men's issues
You can come for these on their own.
Many men work with me on the following without any pornography or sexual behavior concern:
Difficulty naming or expressing emotion
Shame and self-worth, often behind visible competence
Loneliness, including among men with full lives
Emotional closeness in relationships
Anger that arrives faster than intended
Direction, motivation, and what you are building
Men are often told to open up without being told what that means in practice. Part of my work is making it concrete.
Questions about this work
What if I feel too embarrassed to explain?
That is the usual starting point. You can begin with a rough outline and fill it in as you go. Nothing has to be said in the first session.
Do I need to use the word addiction?
No. The label matters less than what is actually happening, and which framing applies to you is something we work out together.
Can therapy respect my religious or personal values?
Yes. Your values are the starting point. If your religious tradition is part of how you understand this, it belongs in the room.
Can I come for men's issues without pornography concerns?
Yes. Many men work with me on emotion, shame, loneliness, anger, or direction with no pornography or sexual behavior concern at all.
Local, face-to-face care
Confidential therapy in Boca Raton.
Meet with Shaya in his Boca Raton office, accessible from communities throughout South Florida. Virtual therapy is also available to appropriate clients in Florida and New Jersey.
A next step at your pace
Take the first step without committing to treatment.
A free 15-minute consultation gives you space to say as much or as little as you want, ask about my approach, and see whether working together feels like a fit.
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